Female Lawyers Should Say Gimme More! Negotiating Salary.

Life got hectic! 2 phone screenings within a week led me to an interview in DC. Let me tell you how it all panned out. It wasn’t good.

Just months later after discovering that I passed the bar, I was interviewed for a Real Estate Associate position (dream job) in the DMV area. I drove up from Charlotte to DC on the fifth (a week or so ago) to be interviewed by seven people. This firm arranged for me to travel to VA for my first interview which was at 4 pm and to a second interview in MD at 6. I was on time for both … even with all of the traffic in DC. My God! How does anyone get anywhere on time … consistently?!

In this position, I would cover foreclosures, litigating when necessary, and in court twice a week for filings. I would also do a host of other things like title searches, closings, oversee legal support staff and much more. I would be required to work 50 hours a week.

I didn’t head back to Charlotte until 8:30/9 pm, just after the managing partner discussed a salary of $50k. Whaaaaatt?!! Who could live in the DMV area on $50k? Like that’s insane. I’d be poverty stricken without the help of a roommate or a life mate. Honestly, after negotiations, the firm failed to budge and increase its offer. And $50k is hardly the average salary for first-year associates or even real estate associates.

I explained to them that I’d have to move short notice (2 weeks or less), front my own relocation expenses to move to a land far away from friends and family to practice law, and I would just need more to survive without any assistance. Besides, I attempted to convince them that their money would be well-spent, and that what was being offered was not the average salary for this position. This firm knew that. Make what you will of it. Some folks are willing to bear and grin it for new opportunities, and I would too for more money or additional time for entrepreneurial ventures. Work me to death, but pay me … in the event of death! Harshly put. I know. But that’s reality.

I already know what it’s like to have a tight budget and to be under extraordinary stress while doing so. Mental breakdowns will ensue!

When women accept low pay, they start behind the curve in building wealth for themselves and their families. They also tend, consequently, to settle for situations/arrangements that they would not particularly agree to had they negotiated better, possessed self worth and acknowledged better options.

Here are the reported salaries for Real Estate Attorneys in DC with $54k being the lowest. Compliments of Glassdoor.

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Additionally, the rates for suicide, depression, and drug and alcohol abuse are highest amongst lawyers. It’s best to just go into business for yourself, so that you can take all the risks and profit.

Going forward; entrepreneurship.

Pave the way. Light the path. Create your own lane. Stick to the plan (self-reminder).

Til next time … Self-love.